Today is my beautiful bride's birthday. She has been by my side for nearly twenty-six years. Second only to the gift of salvation through Jesus, Vonda Kay is the greatest gift I have received.
She is patient and kind. She does not envy, boast, or strut in pride. She is not rude, self-seeking, easily angered, or one who keeps a record of wrongs. She is loving and lovable. I am so thankful that I "popped the question" in October of 1994. We believe in marriage. We are committed to one another and, as Jack and Judith Balswick wisely contend, "The core characteristic of a covenant marriage is commitment." (p 40)
Commitment, not a feeling of love, keeps a marriage strong. To quote the Balswicks again . . .
Like I testified above, Vonda Kay is quite a jewel and for that I am sincerely thankful. But what if she was not so loving? What if rudeness and pride were her MO? That is where commitment needs to shift into high gear. Do I love her because she is easy to love or do I love her because I promised to do so until death parts us? Marriages should be built on the certainty of commitment, not pledges voiced with "I will as long as . . ." or "If you will . . ."
Happy Birthday, Vonda Kay! Thank you for being so lovable. I promise to love you no matter what.
Balswick, Jack O, and Judith K. Balswick. A Model for Marriage: Covenant, Grace, Empowerment and Intimacy. Downers Grove, Ill: IVP Academic, 2006.