Truth and Peace

We've all heard it.  Most of us have said it.  "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."  In addition, we all know that truth is a better choice than a lie.  When we put those words of wisdom together and examine them, we face a question.  Namely - what if when I tell the truth, it is not nice?  

Here the Old Testament prophet Zechariah provides some assistance.  The prophet quoted God to the Hebrew people, saying, "Therefore love truth and peace."

In each of our conversations throughout the day, we need to keep those out-of-God's-mouth words in mind.  

Some people are really good at telling the truth.  Yet, those who find no problem speaking candidly must also tend to relationships.  Be honest.  But do you have to be honest in such a way that you leave a wake of pain behind you?

Other people find ease in keeping the peace.  Relationships are their bread and butter.  However, truth can become hidden.  Yes, you are being nice; but are you protecting your friend from the truth - the truth they really need to know.

In a chapter that contains my job description (equip [God's] people for works of service), Paul picks up the topic. 

Ephesians 4:15 (NIV)
Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.

Are you a lover of peace? 
     Remember to tell the truth.
Are you committed to truth? 
     Don't forget to foster peace.

Particularly in a day like ours when tensions political, cultural, socio-economic, and spiritual are high, we need peace.  We also need truth.  Lies may lend a hand to peace, yet not lasting peace.  True peace is based on truth.

Here are some suggestions on how to keep both truth and peace in the words you speak.

1. Never say "You never . . ." to someone.  Especially your spouse.
2. Always remember to avoid saying "You always . . ." to someone unless you follow it with something like "make me smile."  On second thought, that wouldn't be true so just avoid "You always . . ."
3. Speak with humility.
4. Avoid sharing unsolicited advice.
5. Ask yourself "Is it worth it?"
6. Realize that being right is not always important.
7. Seek to build up, not tear down.

Truth and peace.  You need not pick one or the other.  Choose both.

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